Despite having effectively left lolita, I still love the fashion and so I try to keep up to date on it. I read some of the communities and blogs and such, just to keep up with what's going on. But one thing drives me nuts.
So many of these girls are so fake!
I don't just mean photoshop, while many girls use liberally (for the record, I never photoshop, because I don't know how, and I don't have the program. The only thing I adjust is lighting). I mean their writing as well.
So many of these girls seem to live in a pure fantasy world! They act like their life is SUPAH KAWAII all the time and that they never wear anything but lolita because they are a kawaii hime chan desu!
NO ONE IS ACTUALLY LIKE THAT!
Ok, I love princesses, I am very very girly, I have way too much pink stuff. But I'm not going to pretend that I look super cute and dress up every day. In fact, right now I'm wearing sweatpants and a hoodie. No, I don't wear this to go out, but today I worked on schoolwork and did some errands. I didn't see any reason to dress up. I can't be the only person who thinks like this.
And seriously, people who wear it to school every day: really? I used to wear it once in a while and I got LOTS of nasty and weird looks. Even from people in my department. I was a theatre major. I got fewer looks running around the building with a bloody sword than I did wearing lolita. I had to do a presentation in one of my classes about what lolita and cosplay are because people kept asking me wtf I was wearing. I was a costume design emphasis, and the head costume designer told me that it was hard for her to take me seriously dressed in lolita. So I can't imagine what the professors of those who have more conservative majors think.
One of the reasons that I left lolita was because I'm studying to be a teacher. If I were to go out wearing a full coordinate from Angelic Pretty and a student or parent saw me? It might cause me some issues, because despite that to those of us who wear it, it's a fashion, it looks really weird to the rest of the world. If I make a return, it will have to be in subdued classical. As much as I love lolita, getting and keeping a job is far more important to me.
I don't understand why people seem to think that they need to be so fake! I wish they would at least admit it; I follow xiaxue's blog, and she photoshops, but she admits it. I respect her for the fact that she admits that she has had plastic surgery and uses photoshop instead of just acting like she looks perfect all the time. No one does! I look like crap 90% of the time, I wont lie about that.
I wish people would just be real and honest, it would make things a lot less irritating to read.
Oh, and yes, I tend to only post pictures of me wearing makeup and dressed nicely. If you're curious, here's a picture of me in my t-shirt and hoodie and no makeup (it's a little old but I look pretty much the same):